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This or That Questions for Adults

These this or that questions for adults are about grown-up life: rent and bills, money habits, careers, travel, coffee orders and the stuff you swear you’ll do on the weekend. Every pair is quick to answer and easy to argue about, which makes them good for a dinner party, a game night with friends, a book club warm-up or a team social. The 155 questions are listed below by theme, and you can play them right here. Tap a side, see how your pick compares, and move on. It’s free, there’s no sign-up and no app, and it works on a phone, a laptop or the living-room TV.

A quick note on the word “adults”: this page means adult life, not adult content. Nothing here would make your boss or your mom blush.

How to play

  1. Read both sides out loudSay the two options and give everyone a second to think. Gut answers are the honest ones.
  2. Everyone picks at onceCount to three and point left or right, then tap the winning side or press ← or →. Nobody gets to wait and copy.
  3. Compare, then defend itSee how your pick compares, hear one reason from the smaller side, and let the next question slide in.

Adulting this or that questions about home life

  1. Rent in the city or Own in the suburbs?
  2. Dishwasher Tetris or Hand-wash everything?
  3. Fold laundry right away or The laundry chair?
  4. Autopay every bill or Pay each bill by hand?
  5. Big house, long commute or Small place, short walk?
  6. Dinner at 5:30 or Dinner at 8:30?
  7. DIY the repair or Call a handyman?
  8. House full of plants or Not a single plant?
  9. Robot vacuum or Old-school vacuum?
  10. One messy junk drawer or Labels on everything?
  11. Groceries delivered or Groceries in person?
  12. Build the flat-pack yourself or Pay someone to build it?
  13. Dentist appointment or DMV appointment?
  14. Tiny place, quiet neighbors or Big place, loud neighbors?
  15. Dust every week or Dust when guests visit?
  16. Check the mail daily or Check it once a week?
  17. Shoes off at the door or Shoes on in the house?
  18. Cool house, heavy blanket or Warm house, T-shirt?
  19. Live alone or Live with roommates?
  20. Open kitchen shelves or Closed cabinets?
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This or that questions about money and spending

  1. Save for a down payment or Spend it on travel?
  2. Pay with cash or Tap your phone?
  3. Expensive mattress or Expensive sofa?
  4. Buy it once, buy it good or Buy it cheap, replace it?
  5. Budget spreadsheet or Budget in your head?
  6. Split the bill evenly or Pay for what you ordered?
  7. Big tax refund or Bigger paychecks all year?
  8. Name-brand cereal or Store-brand cereal?
  9. $5,000 bonus or Two extra weeks off?
  10. Shiny new car or Reliable used car?
  11. Every streaming service or One at a time, rotate?
  12. Clip coupons for savings or Pay full price, no hassle?
  13. Gift an experience or Gift something to unwrap?
  14. Emergency fund or Dream vacation fund?
  15. Pay in four installments or Save up first?
  16. Small treat every week or Big splurge once a month?
  17. Lend money to friends or Never lend money?
  18. Pay off debt early or Invest the extra cash?
  19. Add more for free shipping or Just pay the shipping?
  20. Thrifted treasures or Brand-new everything?
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Career this or that questions for adults

  1. Dream job, modest pay or Boring job, big salary?
  2. Four-day week in the office or Five-day week from home?
  3. Corner office or Work from anywhere?
  4. Great boss or Great coworkers?
  5. Retire at 55 or Love your job until 70?
  6. One career for life or Five careers in one life?
  7. Side hustle or Free evenings?
  8. Be your own boss or Steady paycheck?
  9. Fancier job title or Bigger raise?
  10. 10-minute commute or 20% higher salary?
  11. Unlimited vacation days or 25 guaranteed days off?
  12. Job with lots of travel or Job close to home?
  13. Panel interview or Take-home project?
  14. 8 a.m. meeting or 6 p.m. meeting?
  15. Lunch at your desk or Lunch away from work?
  16. Ask for a raise or Quietly job hunt?
  17. Company retreat or Bigger year-end bonus?
  18. Wear a uniform or Pick your own outfit?
  19. Work with close friends or Keep work and friends apart?
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Nostalgic this or that questions from growing up

  1. Saturday morning cartoons or Friday night sleepovers?
  2. Making mixtapes or Burning CDs?
  3. Calling on the landline or Passing notes in class?
  4. Video rental store or Movies on cable TV?
  5. Snow days or Field days?
  6. Disposable camera or Flip phone?
  7. School book fair or School field trip?
  8. Sound of dial-up internet or Sound of a fax machine?
  9. Wall of band posters or Glow-in-the-dark stars?
  10. Trading cards or Virtual pet keychain?
  11. Biking until the streetlights or Gaming all summer long?
  12. Lunch box from home or School cafeteria tray?
  13. Roller rink or Arcade?
  14. Summer camp or Summers at grandma’s?
  15. Your first car or Your first apartment?
  16. Paper road maps or Printed-out directions?
  17. Read your teen diary aloud or Burn it unread?
  18. Redo high school or Redo college?
  19. Reboots of old shows or Totally new shows?
  20. Back-to-school shopping or Last day of school?
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Health and wellness this or that questions

  1. Early bird or Night owl?
  2. Gym membership or Home workouts?
  3. Morning run or Evening walk?
  4. Full eight hours of sleep or Late-night me time?
  5. Yoga class or Lifting weights?
  6. Track every step or Never track a thing?
  7. Sauna or Cold plunge?
  8. Deep-tissue massage or Long soak in a hot tub?
  9. Meditate or Journal?
  10. Green smoothie or Big hot breakfast?
  11. Workout buddy or Solo workout?
  12. Afternoon nap or Second cup of coffee?
  13. Saturday hike or Saturday spa?
  14. Video doctor visit or In-person checkup?
  15. Giant water bottle or Forget to drink water?
  16. Phone on the nightstand or Phone in another room?
  17. Train for a 5K or Learn to swim laps?
  18. Screen-free Sunday or No-scroll mornings?
  19. Morning stretch or Morning scroll?
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Travel and vacation this or that questions

  1. Carry-on only or Checked bag, no regrets?
  2. All-inclusive resort or Plan every day yourself?
  3. Hotel room or Vacation rental?
  4. Road trip playlist or Road trip podcast?
  5. Red-eye flight or Lose a whole day traveling?
  6. City break or Countryside escape?
  7. Travel solo or Travel with a group?
  8. Beach chair with a book or Snorkel all day?
  9. Museum day or Food tour?
  10. Cruise or Cross-country train?
  11. Hotel with a gym or Hotel with a rooftop bar?
  12. At the gate two hours early or At the gate as boarding starts?
  13. One two-week trip or Four long weekends?
  14. Learn a few local phrases or Point and smile?
  15. Pack the night before or Pack the morning of?
  16. Sunrise hike or Sunset dinner?
  17. Fancy hotel, short trip or Basic hotel, long trip?
  18. Ski lodge weekend or Lake house weekend?
  19. Window seat views or Easy aisle access?
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Food and drink this or that questions for adults

  1. Glass of wine or Fancy cocktail?
  2. Oat milk latte or Iced cold brew?
  3. Host brunch or Host dinner?
  4. Charcuterie board or Taco bar?
  5. Cook a new recipe or Cook a trusted favorite?
  6. Spicy wings or Garlic parmesan wings?
  7. Fancy mocktail or Plain sparkling water?
  8. Tasting menu or All-you-can-eat buffet?
  9. Bake your own bread or Bakery bread?
  10. Coffee made at home or Coffee shop every day?
  11. Craft beer or Hard seltzer?
  12. Grilling outside or Baking inside?
  13. Restaurant with a view or Hole-in-the-wall gem?
  14. Steakhouse or Sushi bar?
  15. Cheese plate or Dessert plate?
  16. Meal kit delivery or Your own grocery run?
  17. Let the chef choose or Order your usual?
  18. Eat at the bar or Sit at a table?
  19. Cast-iron skillet or Nonstick pan?
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Social life and weekend this or that questions

  1. Big birthday party or Small dinner with close friends?
  2. Plans made weeks ahead or Last-minute plans?
  3. Potluck dinner or Everyone chips in for takeout?
  4. Friday night out or Friday night in?
  5. Voice memos or Long texts?
  6. Board games at home or Trivia at a bar?
  7. Slip out quietly or Say goodbye to everyone?
  8. Bring a plus-one or Go to the wedding solo?
  9. Book club or Run club?
  10. Saturday errands or Saturday brunch?
  11. Karaoke night or Bowling night?
  12. Sit-down dinner party or Casual backyard cookout?
  13. High school reunion or College reunion?
  14. Concert from the pit or Concert from a seat?
  15. One best friend or Big friend group?
  16. Sunday brunch out or Sunday on the couch?
  17. Know every neighbor or Keep to yourself?
  18. Plan the group trip or Just show up?
  19. Birthday phone call or Birthday text?
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Why This or That works so well for adults

Grown-ups are busy, a little tired and often meeting people they only half know. Long icebreakers feel like homework. This or That asks for one word, and that word says more than you’d expect.

  • It’s fast. A pick takes two seconds, so ten questions fit between ordering food and the food arriving.
  • It’s low-stakes. Autopay every bill or pay each bill by hand isn’t personal, but it still tells you whether someone likes control or likes not thinking about it.
  • It reveals personality. The person who picks autopay every bill over pay each bill by hand is probably the one who should collect the money for the group trip. You learn things about friends of ten years.
  • Anyone can join. There are no rules to explain and no skills to show off, so the quiet friend and the new partner can play from the first question.

The questions also skip the topics that turn a fun night tense. You won’t find politics, religion, salaries or anything about bodies here. The money questions are about habits, like how you split a bill, not about how much anyone earns.

How to play This or That at a dinner party or game night

At the table, one phone is enough. Make one person the reader for a few rounds, then pass the phone along. The reader reads both options, everyone answers at the same time, and the reader taps the side most of the table chose to see how your pick compares.

For a bigger group or a game night on the couch, put the page on the TV and press Present. Each question fills the screen, and a clicker or the arrow keys move you along. Use the theme filter to fit the crowd: food and drink questions work over dinner, nostalgia questions are perfect when old friends get together, and travel questions get everyone planning a trip that may or may not happen.

A rhythm that works well:

  1. Warm up with five fast ones. No reasons, just picks. It gets everyone talking.
  2. Slow down for the splits. When the table divides evenly, ask each side for one reason.
  3. Stop while it’s fun. Fifteen to twenty minutes is plenty before dessert or the main game.

Book clubs can use two or three questions as an opener before the discussion. Ask them on the way in and people stop checking their phones.

Using these questions at team socials and with coworkers

Most of these questions are fine for a work happy hour or a team dinner, where people want to know each other a bit better than they do in meetings. The careers questions, like great boss or great coworkers, get people talking about what they actually want from work without anyone oversharing.

A few tips for mixed company:

  • Stick to the food, travel, nostalgia and weekend themes with people you’ve just met.
  • Skip the money questions if your group spans very different incomes.
  • Make passing normal. A shrug is a perfectly good answer.

If you need something for the office itself, like a standup opener or a virtual meeting warm-up, the This or That questions for work are written for exactly that.

Harder follow-up questions to ask after a pick

The pick is the easy part. A good follow-up turns a two-second answer into a real conversation. Try these once the group is warmed up:

  • “What would change your mind?” Someone who picked rent in the city might switch for a yard. Finding the switch point is the fun part.
  • “Has it always been that way?” A lot of adults picked the opposite at 22. Ask what changed.
  • “What’s the worst part of your pick?” It forces people to argue against themselves.
  • “Who here do you think picked the other side?” Guessing each other’s answers is half the fun with old friends.
  • “Tell us about the time it went wrong.” Ask the pack the morning of crowd. There’s always a story.

When the group wants real dilemmas with a cost on both sides, switch to hard Would You Rather questions. They take longer to answer and spark bigger debates.

This or That game variations for grown-ups

Plain picking is fun for a while. When you want a little structure, try one of these.

  • Score without a drinking game. Before each result, everyone guesses which side most people chose. A point for each right guess, and the first to ten picks the next round’s theme. No one has to drink, and the competitive friends still get a scoreboard.
  • Defend your pick. The smaller side gets thirty seconds to win someone over. If even one person switches, they earn a point. Use the timer in Present mode to keep it honest.
  • Read your partner. Couples or best friends write down the other person’s answer before they pick. Most matches after ten questions wins.
  • Hot seat. One person answers five questions in a row while everyone else predicts their picks first. Rotate until everyone has had a turn.
  • Write your own. After a few rounds, each guest invents one pair about the host. Homemade questions are always the most revealing.

Want to point at each other instead? Most Likely To questions work great at the same kind of party.

Sample This or That questions for adults

Here are a few favorites from the 155 questions on this page, one from each theme:

  • Early bird or night owl?
  • Dishwasher Tetris or hand-wash everything?
  • Split the bill evenly or pay for what you ordered?
  • Fancier job title or bigger raise?
  • Making mixtapes or burning CDs?
  • At the gate two hours early or at the gate as boarding starts?
  • Glass of wine or fancy cocktail?
  • Slip out quietly or say goodbye to everyone?

For quicker, everyday picks that suit any age, play the main This or That game.

Questions people ask

What are good This or That questions for adults?

Good ones are about real grown-up choices where both sides make sense: rent in the city or own in the suburbs, carry-on only or a checked bag, save for a down payment or spend it on travel, early bird or night owl. They should be quick to answer but easy to defend, so the pick leads to a conversation.

Are these questions appropriate for a mixed group?

Yes. “Adults” here means adult life, like bills, jobs, travel and weekends, not adult content. Nothing on this page is sexual or crude, and it stays away from politics and religion, so you can play with coworkers, in-laws or a new book club.

How do you play This or That with a group of adults?

One person reads both options, everyone picks at the same time by pointing or calling it out, and the smaller side explains first. Put the page on a TV with Present for a big group, or pass one phone around the table at dinner.

How many questions should we play?

Ten to fifteen questions fill a relaxed fifteen minutes at a dinner party. For a full game night, play a theme at a time and switch when the energy drops. Two or three questions are enough to open a book club or a team dinner.

Can we make it a competition?

Sure. Before each result, everyone guesses which side most people picked, and correct guesses score a point. Or play defend your pick, where the smaller side earns a point for every person they win over. Neither needs drinks, so everyone can play.

Do I need to sign up or download anything?

No. The game runs in your browser on a phone, tablet, laptop or smart TV. Open the page, tap a side, and see how your pick compares. Your picks are anonymous.

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